Meet the Staff!

Say welcome to our newest member and check out our updated page

I hope you all are hanging in there! Today we say hello to Ruthie (she/they), the newest addition to our staff. You can see all of our Royal Vegas Retreat 2021 core staff members at

Ruthie is in charge of our swap meet and other con content surprises. You may remember them from our "Altering Brand" panel at #RoyalVegasOnline2020 !

Alt: Ruthie in a brown and cream IW dress with carousel horses, with a brown blouse, shoes, cat-eye glasses, and wrist cuffs, and cream ankle socks and beret. Text to their right says "Meet The Staff".

In her own words:

Hailing from LA, screenwriter, queer author, and actor Ruthie is a lolita that wears many, many bonnets. Their YouTube, the_bard_in_bows, focuses on plus size inclusiveness and comedy. She also is an admin for the small comm, the BGP Collective, which is still in its baby years. When she has free time (if any), Ruthie enjoys Animal Crossing, horror movies, and dressing like a sentient love seat at your grandmother's house.  

Welcome, Ruthie! And an extra-special thanks from founder Nif to the whole staff: Kim, Harley, Jess, Conner, Allie, Ruthie, and Ryan, and to everyone else who has helped out behind the scenes, offered moral support, and just believed in our vision here at Pretty Princess Club.

Without stellar people, events don’t happen, so we are truly lucky to have such wonderful people lending their expertise to Royal Vegas Retreat.

Stay home, stay safe, and… try wearing a JSK over an OP?

It's Time For Community Accountability

What we're doing at PPC to make RVR 2021 safe.

Hey, friends. It’s been a rough few weeks already in 2021, in the US and for the Lolita Fashion community. Behind the cute picture we’re using to appease various social media algorithms, here is what we at PPC are doing to be accountable for the safety of our future events.

Alt: a picture of Nif in a brown-tinted Metamorphose gobelin JSK with ivory chiffon blouse, ivory socks, brown shoes, and lace and flower headdress. She is checking her watch. Text to the right of her says “It’s Time For Community Accountability”.

We have made some updates to our website ( Of note, our “About” section has its own navigation tree. We moved our full Code of Conduct out of the Royal Vegas Retreat event FAQ page and into its own page under the about/ path.

We encourage all of our prospective attendees to read the Code of Conduct in full. In particular, we have new sections about our values, about fascist and alt-right symbols, and about racist and stereotypical portrayals. These are a direct response to so-called “community members” who have seen fit to dress themselves in ways that make light of atrocity and oppression. Thanks to the tireless work of people who care deeply about the Lolita Fashion community and put themselves on the line to out fascist sympathizers, we will make our event safer by adding known fascist sympathizers to our banlist.

We invite you all to come forward, publicly or privately, if you know of anyone else who endangers our community.

Now, it is time for a harder conversation. You may be looking at our new Code of Conduct and wondering about the recent (separate) harm perpetrated by one of our contracted special guests, and how we can possibly stand by our values when we have hired someone who causes harm to marginalized fashion fans.

There are 2 issues at play here:

  1. How do we ensure that PPC only hires guests that reflect the values of our community?

  2. What will we do to hold this guest accountable?

The answer to issue 1 is simple: implement a review process with our staff for all future special guests. In addition, we have proactively reached out to a couple of potential special guests that better reflect the community’s values. As soon as the future of RVR 2021 is clearer, we will determine how best to move forward with new special guests.

The answer to issue 2 is harder. Nif has reached out to the guest in question to offer direct support in becoming accountable. If we do not see long-term changes in behavior, we will remove the guest from our lineup at our own expense.

You have the right to hold us accountable for our decisions. Additionally, we do not expect you to take our declarations at face value - our actions should earn your trust. We cannot stand by and pay lip service to social justice without accounting for our role in the community. The community’s calls for accountability will make Lolita Fashion better, stronger, and safer - especially for marginalized community members. PPC’s job is to listen and take action accordingly. We hope that in doing so, we make it easier for other event organizations to do the same thing.

Thank you for reading. This is the second week in a row that we have struck a rather serious tone in our blog post. While we wait for spring and the promises of vaccination and a return to “normal,” we will continue to keep the lights on, provide transparency, and make improvements and updates across the board in anticipation of a 2021 event.

2021 is finally here! Now what?

What does the new year mean for PPC and Royal Vegas Retreat?

Welcome to a whole new year. We know there are huge, important, terrible, draining things happening in the US right now - namely, white supremacist violence in DC and beyond; as Black organizers, radicals, and leftists predicted months ago. Stay as safe as you can. Treat the media with skepticism. Give to those in need. Wear a mask and wash your hands.

We wanted to give you an update on our 2021 plans for Royal Vegas Retreat. Unfortunately, a whole lot of uncertainty still remains for in-person events. So what does this mean for #RoyalVegasRetreat2021?

Caption: Nif (far right) and her comm-mates at Lady Yum Pioneer Square under a rain of colorful confetti - photographed February 2020, pre-COVID measures.

We are cautiously optimistic that we can put on our event this year. We are contracted with the MGM Grand Las Vegas to hold our event as planned. And we're seeing health experts say that life in the US may be back to normal by "summer" or "early fall," contingent on a successful vaccine rollout.

However, there is a lot about ending the pandemic that we don't understand yet. What does "normal" mean? Will vaccination efforts be successful in the presence of conservative fearmongering and ableism? Will guests from other countries want to visit the US, like, ever again? Will it be safe to put on an in-person event with hundreds of attendees in 2021?

With all that in mind, we'll be slowly making updates here and there between now and the end of April. We will not be announcing any new or already-planned content, special guests, or any of the other exciting plans we've been working on behind the scenes, until we have more clarity - hopefully in May 2021.

We do have tickets still available for RVR 2021. However, we will not decide a date to resume selling tickets until we are sure we can put on our event safely. We will not hold RVR 2021 if we don't believe it's safe to do so. In the event that we cannot put our event on this year, we will look into postponing once again.

We will only cancel our event outright as a last resort - and even then, we will do so with the intention of putting on Royal Vegas Retreat someday. We appreciate that you all share our vision of a bright, opulent, luxurious and accessible event in the western US - one that brings the greater community together in ways we had only dreamed of before.

We at PPC wish you all the best in 2021. Stay as safe as you can. Support small and independent alternative fashion brands, not fast fashion. Enjoy virtual events like Bay Area Kei's upcoming Garnet Gateau. Keep listening to the advocates at Kawaii Riot, and remember that Lolita fashion isn't an escape until it's an escape for everyone - Black and Indigenous, trans, fat and plus-sized, and disabled fashion fans especially. 2020 united us from afar, clarified our politics, and ultimately our community is stronger for it. Let's have an amazing 2021 together.

Get Ready to Wassail at Winter in the Woodlands!

It's DIY Mix-Along Time!

Nif is back with another DIY Mix-Along cocktail panel at Rosé Forêt's Winter in the Woodlands. This is your reminder to order any ingredients in advance so you can follow along live. Now, are you ready for wassail?


Don’t mind our gnarly stove…pictured: a jug of Litehouse honeycrisp apple cider, cinnamon sticks, ginger, and a lemon, our fave Bulleit bourbon, and the mulled cider bubbling away on the stove.

According to Wikipedia, wassail is an old British tradition - either petitioning for blessings of a good apple harvest or a rowdy Yuletide celebration, depending on who you ask. Or, it refers to a hot alcoholic drink, usually consisting of mulled (spiced) apple cider.

You can make your wassail with, well, basically anything you've got laying around - wine, ale, or juice; a little citrus; your favorite spices; and some fortified wine or liquor. We'll be using a recipe adapted from The Seasonal Cocktail Companion - wassail is usually served as a punch, so our recipe is scaled down for you and 1 friend...or just you!

Winter in the Woodlands Wassail

3 cups apple cider (not the alcoholic kind)

1/2 lemon, sliced into thin rounds

1-2 cinnamon sticks

1 tablespoon fresh ginger, grated or minced

(optional) your favorite spices, to taste

to serve: 2 oz bourbon

In a small saucepan, warm the cider, lemon slices, cinnamon, ginger, and spices on the stove over low heat for at least 1 hour, or until you're satisfied with the taste. Ladle 8 oz of cider into a mug (reserve the remaining cider for later) and top with 2 oz bourbon per serving. Stir with cinnamon stick and use as garnish. Enjoy hot.


* For a non-alcoholic version, simply leave out the liquor.

* Try substituting other juice, or wine, or even beer for apple cider!

* Use your favorite citrus, or whatever is available locally, instead of lemons.

* Top off with rum, brandy, port, or sherry instead of bourbon. Fortified wine instead of hard liquor will make a less-alcoholic drink.

If you don't have time to heat your wassail in advance, try our party-time version:

All Party/No Prep Winter in the Woodlands Wassail

1 mug of apple cider (leave room for alcohol)

2 oz Fireball or other cinnamon whiskey

(optional) Apple slice, lemon slice, or cinnamon stick for garnish

Heat apple cider in microwave for 2 minutes or until steamy-hot

Pour Fireball over the top and stir gently to mix. Garnish if you feel like it.


Thank you <3 What's next?

We had so much fun with you at RVO!

Thank you all who attended our Royal Vegas Online event - hosted in collaboration with JFashion on Demand and Bay Area Kei. We had an awesome time with you all.

What’s next for PPC? We’re sponsoring and cohosting a couple of wonderful events in December, including Puvithel’s 5th Anniversary Tea and Rosé Forêt’s Winter in the Woodlands. Please join us there!

So…what’s next-next? Like after that? We don’t know yet. We’re on the books to host Royal Vegas Retreat 2021 at the MGM Grand from November 19 - 21, 2021. However, we just don’t know what the future looks like for in-person events. We care deeply about the health and safety of the community, and while we want to bring everyone together for a totally amazing in-person event, we won’t do that unless we’re certain we can do it safely.

All this to say…please stay tuned for more information. COVID-19 is a completely unprecedented situation for event planners, and we will do everything we can to keep you informed and treat you fairly in the event that RVR 2021 can’t happen.

If you read this far, congratulations! Your reward is 20% off on Vegas Royal-Tea and Ultimate Survival Kits at using code THANKS between November 26 - 30.

See you around!

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